Hello, single wives! Welcome back to the second edition to the Single Wife’s Guide series. In this edition we’re going to be discussing Valentine’s Day and why it is important to celebrate this day. Alone. By yourself. With your spouse on deployment it is your job to put the kids to bed and make the night all about you. Although Valentine’s Day is a holiday for couples it doesn’t mean that’s going to stop us. We’re part of a couple, we just happen to be both parts of that couple for a while. So sit back, relax, and read all about how to take back Valentine’s Day my fellow single wives!
DID YOU KNOW? According to the Greeting Card Association, 25% of all cards sent each year are valentines. Find some more interesting facts about Valentine’s Day here!
We all know that Valentine’s Day isn’t about cards, candy and flowers. Valentine’s Day is a great day to spend with your loved one. Sometimes holidays are the only chance we have to go out for a date night, spend time alone and give each other undivided attention and affection. It is unfortunate that people wait until special holidays in order to show their love to their significant other.
My husband and I hardly do anything for Valentine’s Day anymore. Personally, I’m not a fan of chocolate and every time we go out to dinner it’s a date. Flowers die and cards get trashed. We prefer to spend Valentine’s Day at home, ordering a pizza and watching a movie. Let’s face it, for a couple with two dogs and no children, that’s a perfect V-day for us.
If you and your significant other do celebrate Valentine’s Day and they’re deployed this year then let’s not pretend it’s not a big deal. It sucks when your spouse misses holidays, birthdays and anniversaries. Luckily, you don’t need your spouse to have a great day!
One of the reasons we enjoy Valentine’s Day so much is because of the attention that we receive from our significant other. We like to feel beautiful and loved which is exactly what attention does for us. Therefore, we have to give ourselves that sort of attention this time. A great way to do this is to schedule a spa day for yourself. However, we don’t always have extra money laying around for something so lavish so we just have to do it at home ourselves.
Go out and buy yourself one of those spa gift sets that have little miniature samples of everything. My personal favorite are the Burt’s Bees gift sets because the products are not only natural but they do wonders on all skin types. Burt’s Bees has a hand and feet gift set that comes with a foot cream, a hand lotion and balm for your cuticles. It smells amazing and makes me feel like I just got a professional mani-pedi if I cut and file my nails first.
Korean face masks can be bought on Amazon for a reasonable price. Seriously, you can buy a pack of them for cheap! Or pick up an individual one at the store. Target had cute animal printed face masks at one point, I’m saving my panda one for Valentine’s Day! (I frikkin’ love pandas, okay?!) Korean face masks are my absolutely favorite pamper item when I just want to chill and de-stress. I set my cell phone for 20 minutes, put on the mask, recline on my couch and close my eyes. Half the time I fall asleep and it’s the best little nap I could possibly have. When the timer goes off you toss the mask and rub the product into your skin.
The third thing you can do is not only easy but you don’t have to go out and buy anything as long as you have lotion. If you don’t usually use lotion (you really should) then pull out a jar of coconut oil! Take a hot shower and before you get dressed massage lotion into tender spots to help you relax. The hot water will loosen your muscles and massaging will only make it feel better! Focus on places like your neck, shoulders and bottom of your feet. Talk about some serious relaxation!
GET YOUR BINGE ON
Let’s be honest. We wish we could sit on the couch and do nothing but binge watch all of our favorite shows and movies on Netflix. Life doesn’t always let us do that so why not make a night of it by yourself? No bickering over what to watch because everything that gets picked is what you want. Want to watch movies of the romance variety and cry your eyes out? You do you, boo! Coincidence that Magic Mike was just released on Netflix February 1st? Don’t think so.
Don’t stop your binge-worthy night at just Netflix. Grab all of your favorite snacks and chow down while you watch your shows. If chocolate is your thing and your spouse usually buys you chocolates, go out and get it for yourself! Life is too short to not indulge in your favorite treats. Personally, I prefer popcorn. Salty has always been my preference over sweets. Sometimes I’ll add trail mix to my popcorn to make it a really special treat.
Last but not least, if you’re really feeling binge-tastic then consider buying yourself a present. Does your spouse usually surprise you with a piece of jewelry or your favorite book? Go out and buy yourself something. Treat yo’self! Something that will make your Valentine’s Day more enjoyable would be the ideal gift. Don’t go out and buy yourself something that is going to make you sad and miss your beau even more.
BE A SOLO BAD ASS
Okay, my husband thinks I’m a nutter for doing this, but I like to go places by myself. Fly solo if you want to go to dinner and a movie. Going to the movies solo makes for a great time, honest! Nobody will be there to talk to you or be a distraction. Take a book with you if you’re going to dine out. The first time can be a little uncomfortable. I went to dinner alone once and didn’t know where to look since there wasn’t someone sitting across from me. So I stared at my phone and drained the entire battery in one sitting! Now I take a book with me instead.
The point is don’t be afraid to go out and do the things you love just because your significant other is away. If you don’t have friends or family around there’s no shame going out by yourself. Be smart and safe when you go out. Text someone or post on social media that you’re being a solo bad ass and where you plan on going. That way if anything happens they know where you’ll be.
DO WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY
No matter what you do this Valentine’s Day there’s one thing we all have in common: we’re going to be thinking of our spouse and missing them. This is perfectly fine and healthy. No matter where they are, we can take comfort in the fact that they’ll also be thinking of us. Cry it out if you must, but just don’t let the sadness consume you and ruin the day.
This is why you should do what is going to make you happy on V-day. Forget about the normal traditions and turn V-day into Me Day! I’m going to be reading a book and then pampering myself this Valentine’s Day. Possibly watch some Netflix with a bag of popcorn and just chill out by myself.
Remember… just because your spouse is deployed doesn’t mean that you should stop living your life. Have any plans this Valentine’s Day? Leave a comment and tell me all about it! Even if your spouse isn’t deployed, share your favorite V-day traditions below!